We all know that getting stuck in a rut is something that happens to everyone. I mentioned on Instagram the other day that I’ve been feeling like I’ve been in a funk lately. It typically
We all know that getting stuck in a rut is something that happens to everyone. I mentioned on Instagram the other day that I’ve been feeling like I’ve been in a funk lately. It typically happens to me 3-4 times per year, usually whenever something changes in my life. (I don’t like change very much unless it’s something overwhelmingly good.) But sometimes when this happens I can’t even put my finger on what’s bringing me down. Lately I think it’s the many adjustments with back to school, my grandad being in the hospital, the sadness I’m already feeling of saying goodbye to our home we just sold, and the anxiety I’m having about our new house and how it has turned into a much bigger project than I thought it would be… those are just a few of the things that have started to weigh on me. Three out of these four are not even things I would consider to be problems, but I’m just being real in saying it’s what lately has made me feel not quite myself.
I felt the need to say this because I wanted to remind everyone that people on social media in the influencer space might appear to not ever have any bad days, but it’s so far from the truth. All we see are pictures of a quick blip in time that the person wants to share—it’s not even an ounce of what the full day looks like. But to us as outsiders looking in, that photo or 15 second IG story represents what we believe to be the big picture.
Sometimes when I have lost my motivation, I check out instagram as I always do and end up wondering why I don’t have the energy or desire to do all of these great things I see influencers doing, which in turn makes me feel inadequate, turning the rut into a vicious cycle. And I technically am an influencer, so I know the drill! I know the way this works and that it’s just a highlight reel. That’s exactly why I felt it was really important to share this reminder because I figured if I feel this way sometimes, then others must too.
Today I’m going to share 10 ways I pull myself out of a funk when I’m feeling down. It’s what works for me, so maybe it might help you too if you find yourself feeling a little blah as well.
This is big because I truly believe a tidy environment brings a clear mind. When I have a clean car, clean purse, and clean closet, my life just flows in a much better way. It’s a trickling effect to my mood and how I live my life. When I’m feeling lazy, the last thing I want to do is clean, but if I can make myself do it then it usually gets me on a roll where I then want to start organizing the kids’ toys, scrubbing the kitchen counters, and so forth.
Again, something that I don’t feel like doing at all when I’m in a rut, but it gets the endorphins flowing and always makes me feel more productive. A walk outside or one of my favorite at-home workouts does the trick for me.
I’m an enneagram 3, so for me, when I’m not feeling motivated or I’m not getting work done for whatever reason, I immediately start feeling sorry for myself. And when that happens, it can create a toxic mindset where I start recognizing inadequacies in my life. I might find myself thinking things like, “I haven’t exercised in weeks! I’m so lazy.” or “Wow look at how little I’ve cooked this week for my family. I’m being a terrible mom.” Or maybe I’ll think, “I haven’t put up an instagram post in days or blogged about anything worthwhile. My business is going to crumble.”
See what I mean? That’s major enneagram 3 thoughts, by the way. But the reality is that it’s okay to take a break from all of those things. I know very well that I’m not lazy, that I’m a good mom, and that my business isn’t going to disappear. So what I try to do is shift my mindset and tell myself, “Megan, you’re overwhelmed for whatever reason. Take a week off. Give yourself some grace and get back out there next week.” This statement gives me the reminder that everyone needs a break every once in a while and it gives me the permission to take one.
It’s at this point that my lack of doing tasks is now looked at as a break and not failure. See how a shift of mindset can change the whole scenario?
I love to listen to podcasts and I’ve recently started enjoying reading books through the Audible app. Hearing something inspiring can put me in the right state of mind a lot more than RHOBH can. I find so much motivation through listening to my favorite podcasts and I’ll share that list soon!
It’s never fun, but I like to analyze what’s going on and ask myself, “Okay Megan, what exactly is it that’s bothering you?” It’s crazy but sometimes I feel like I’m in a rut, but can’t even figure out why. I try to analyze my feelings to determine whether it’s something silly that shouldn’t bother me at all or if it’s an actual issue—and if so, then what can I do to fix it? If there is something I can do to repair the problem, I try to do it head on. If you avoid the problems, they will remain an issue deep down for a long time to come.
And here’s a little add-on to this point, but I love to make a to-do list of realistic tasks. It sets up the framework I need to start feeling productive. Don’t get me wrong—I definitely may not feel equipped to tackle it all right away, but I pick the easiest tasks I can to start with and from there, it ends up being more fun to eventually cross everything off of the list.
This always helps! I believe I’m what is called an introverted extrovert. I love to be social, but the time has to be right and I need my alone time 2x as much. But my girlfriends definitely fuel my soul!
If this feeling happens, it’s often because I am worn out emotionally and physically. I already know I don’t give myself enough rest time, so when I know I need it, I try to sneak in a nap when the kids are resting too or I’ll make myself go to bed at a decent time. As far as self care, my absolute favorite thing is a long bath! A manicure and pedicure at The Water Room is a close second. Sleep and self care are hugely important to having a positive mind.
Perspective is everything and writing a gratitude list is a sure way to quickly understand that whatever is troubling me is small potatoes in the grand scheme. It also shifts my mind to start thinking about positive things rather than the negatives. Here’s a great gratitude journal I love and keep by my bed.
For me lately, this has been tennis and it has been so fun! I also want to learn how to create pottery on a wheel. One day.
Talk to a parent, your spouse or significant other, a friend, a therapist, or any listening ear. It helps so much to be able to vent! Sometimes that’s all it takes for me.
…But if it isn’t, I try to remember the other nine things on this list and I usually can step out of my rut within a few days. Remember it’s totally normal to feel this way occasionally! And usually when it happens to me a few times per yet, it really encourages me to evaluate what’s going on in my life and to make sure I’m on the right track to where I want to be moving forward.
Dress pictured here is by Sue Sartor.